FOR YOUR SAKE, LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS.

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I’m sure you’ve probably heard the saying, ‘expectations are disappointments waiting to happen.’ Having expectations of others, ourselves or situations is a set-up for us. If what we are expecting doesn’t happen (which is usually the case) then we usually feel frustrated, angry, hurt, resentful or disappointed.

Take a moment and think about the thoughts you have when an expectation of yours isn’t met. Are they kind, supportive and empowering? My guess is no. If that’s true for you, THAT is what creates the feelings of frustration, anger, resentment or disappointment, NOT what actually happened. It’s our perception and what we say about ourselves or others in that unmet expectation that creates the suffering.

So what can we do to put the kibosh on the expectations? LET. THEM. GO. And bring yourself back to the comfort of the present moment. There are no expectations or disappointments in the present moment…

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MY NEW FOUND LOVE FOR PSALM 91.

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Wow, so my dad has been making the family read Psalm 91 every day and night and not until recently did I start grasping the verses in it. Chapter 91 really is an amazing chapter and possibly one of my favorites. I mean, C’mon, read through this and really try to understand what’s going on here. Honestly wrap your head around each word and take in every sentence. 

Imagine you’re in the zombie apocalypse or something, you’re stuck in a building, and all these gross looking people are trying to come at you. You then run back and forth everywhere, but there seems to be no escape, the zombies already a couple of feet from you and you’re surrounded. All of a sudden, Supermanbreaks through the ceiling and rescues you, holding on to you as you both fly away from the evil below. That’s who God is, except God isn’t Superman, He is so much more…

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BLESSED ARE THE MEEK, FOR THEY WILL INHERIT THE WHOLE EARTH.

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In the business or sports worlds, to be considered successful, you need to surpass or crowd out your competitors.  In military campaigns, it is the army that is most dominant, or that takes the most land that is considered triumphant. In the eyes of the world, the person who is the most assertive or who gains the most power is often held in the highest esteem.  It’s about the survival of the fittest. It’s about being the last man standing. Apparently, the world belongs to these kinds of people.

But this is not the case when it comes to the kingdom of God.  From God’s perspective, the person who is considered blessed is not the most dominant, the toughest or the most powerful.  Jesus said, “Blessed are the meek.”

What does it mean to be meek?  Other translations of this verse use the word “gentle” or “humble.” The word that Jesus is using is not…

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BLESSED ARE THE MEEK, FOR THEY WILL INHERIT THE WHOLE EARTH.

Bowtie-On-Joe

In the business or sports worlds, to be considered successful, you need to surpass or crowd out your competitors.  In military campaigns, it is the army that is most dominant, or that takes the most land that is considered triumphant. In the eyes of the world, the person who is the most assertive or who gains the most power is often held in the highest esteem.  It’s about the survival of the fittest. It’s about being the last man standing. Apparently, the world belongs to these kinds of people.

But this is not the case when it comes to the kingdom of God.  From God’s perspective, the person who is considered blessed is not the most dominant, the toughest or the most powerful.  Jesus said, “Blessed are the meek.”

What does it mean to be meek?  Other translations of this verse use the word “gentle” or “humble.” The word that Jesus is using is not…

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“I’VE GOT THIS, REMEMBER?”- GOD

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That thing you are worrying about- He’s got this, remember?

Psalm 55:22 says, “Give your burdens to the Lord, and He will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.” (NLT)

That’s a comforting verse, but it can also be a challenging verse. The last sentence begs the question, “So why do bad things happen to good people?”

My answer: He isn’t the one letting you down. That’s sin. God only ever wants what is best for you- what will strengthen you in courage, faith, and character.

This pain you are feeling and this thing you are worried about- they were not caused by God. Instead, He is preparing your breakthrough. Trust me; He’s got this!

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HOW DO YOU FIGHT YOUR BATTLES?

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Yesterday, I had an experience where I had to find a space to keep my calm, and it took so much energy. I managed to walk away from the situation without making a fool of myself and was able to resolve the situation without raising my voice. So if you have a similar situation or share in a similar personality, here’s some confidence. Most people would encourage you to lose your temper or shout at someone to show you are bigger or meaner, but in Romans 12:2 it says clearly, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” 

The famous phrase of fighting fire with fire used to resonate with me, and I’ll naturally react negatively. If someone got angry at me, I would get even…

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YOU CAN’T CONTROL PEOPLE’S WORDS, BUT YOU CAN CONTROL HOW YOU RECEIVE THEM.

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Learning that people weren’t responsible for the way I was allowing them to ’make’ me feel, was one of the hugest “aha” moments in my life. There were so many situations where people would say something to me that would run in my mind for days. I remember one girl I liked called me weird, and because no girl had ever said that before, I became literally obsessed with ways to prove to her I wasn’t, which only ended up with me actually then looking and doing weird things.  People just had so much power over how I felt, and it all stemmed from giving more power to them than to God in my life. But once Jesus started helping me to realize I was the one allowing this to keep happening, and that I actually could make the proper steps to end it, He began to help me change.

We are all broken…

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